Passport 2 Purity Getaway Kit (4th Edition)
That proverbial talk about the "birds and the bees." You know you need to do it. Teaching your children about God's plan for sex and all the male/female interaction that leads up to it is part of what it means to bring up a child in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. And you want to do it - sort of. It's just that it's so very uncomfortable - and you don't know what to say - and there might be questions asked that make you ashamed or guilty. . . Dennis and Barbara Rainey (parents of six) of Family Life Ministries know you need "a plan" and they've provided a lovely one - a getaway weekend kit complete with instructions for you, guidelines for what to do, excellent speakers to get the difficult words out in the open by offering interesting sessions, an engaging format, a solid study of Biblical values, and enjoyable scripture songs.
The goal of this program is to encourage and empower parents to discuss the difficult topics of intimacy, sexual behavior, and personal feelings that are facing their children as they enter the preteen years. To give parents the tools they need to both challenge their sons and daughters as they enter the pathway to Christian adulthood as well as provide the foundation for future discussions and sharing. To build a mentoring relationship with your children that continues past the weekend and into all the years leading up to adulthood.
Preteen? Isn't that jumping the gun a bit for the birds and the bees? Not in today's culture. It's literally everywhere around us - and now in ways unimagined by all previous generations. This program is designed to set the stage for a close parent/child relationship as the child moves into this period. Topics are handled biblically, carefully, and tastefully. Some topics are left optional for the parent.
A weekend getaway. That's the general setting. One child - with the parent all to himself (boys with fathers; girls with mothers) - doing an activity of his choice that he loves to do and spending time listening to "talks" and working through study material together. It's a wonderful affirmation that the love of the parent can transcend the upcoming changes that the child will be experiencing.
There are five sessions:
- Beginning the Journey (Challenges, Traps and Choices)
- Running with the Herd (Friendships and Peer Pressure)
- Ready for an Upgrade? (Changes in Him, Changes in Her)
- Destination: LePure (Setting Boundaries)
- Crossing the Date Line (Seeing Dating Differently)
The Getaway Kit provides the necessary framework: a tour guide for the parent, travel journal for the preteen including 25 follow-up devotions, a CD containing 5 sessions with Scripture memory songs from SEEDS Family Worship.
The Tour Guide is for the parent - basically a leader's guide for this very focused Bible study. This little manual includes sections on planning the getaway, an itinerary for the weekend, a suggested schedule, preparation checklists (and needed supplies), guidelines for writing a note to your son/daughter, and very specific suggestions for praying for your son/daughter. Also included is a page-for-page reproduction of the Travel Journal (accent color rather than full color) so you can work through it with your son/daughter.
The Travel Journal is for your son/daughter and is designed as a companion for the experiences of the weekend. With a travel theme and an engaging appearance, it provides a place to write notes (from the talks), thoughts, and answers to questions as well as the guidelines for godly Christian living provided by this study material. There are 25 follow-up devotions that continue with a similar theme and help strengthen the biblical core of the young adult's understanding of the various issues. This is a nicely done keepsake book with a hardcover, full-color graphics, and an elastic strap for place-keeping.
The CD provides the core material for the heart of the weekend and the program. The CD provides the weekend talk sessions. These sessions feature scripture memory songs, dramatic vignettes, humorous features, real-life stories from teens and adults, and lots of teaching from parents and experts that have "been there, done that." Songs are CCM-type of music with understandable lyrics, singable melodies, and full instrumentation backup.
Having "that" talk with your children may never be entirely comfortable, but this kit gives you a plan; the certainty of godly, biblical content; and the promise of enjoyable memories.
A life-changing getaway with your preteen
Your child begins the journey into adolescence in a world of sexting, bullying, online stalking and moral defiance. Innocence is under attack, and you cannot win the battle with a single awkward talk or a strict set of rules. The primary defense for your child is a strong relationship with you and with God. FamilyLife has developed Passport2Purity® to assist you in building heart-to-heart communication with your preteen while laying a foundation of purity that will prepare them for the turbulent years ahead. Through the shared listening experience, object lessons and guided conversations of a Passport2Purity weekend getaway, you can set your son or daughter on a journey of moral integrity—and strengthen the bond between you.
Passport2Purity® is designed to be used by a mother and daughter or a father and son when the child is a preteen. It is suggested that the materials be completed over a weekend away from home, as the child may be more open to discussing the topics away from his or her normal environment. If this isn’t possible, the material can be completed over a period of four or five weeks.
Includes: One Tour Guide (parent), one Travel Journal (preteen), and one CD (5 sessions, scripture memory songs & MP3s that can be downloaded from the CDs)
I spent time ahead of the weekend, listening to each CD and preparing for the activities - be sure to do this ahead of time! I thought the first CD was quite hokey and aimed at younger kids, so we skipped that one and I instead wrote a lesson on traps (we used mouse traps to illustrate the point). The remaining CDs were good - we skipped through the songs and through some of the stories that were told or acted out. While the content and message is just fantastic, I think the delivery could be vastly updated and made more relatable.
We stopped the CDs quite a bit to talk as a family about what each of the girls are seeing in their classes, with friends, with boys, etc. Their feedback was that the CDs were cheezy but ok, they loved the P2P books they could write in, and had a blast with the activities during each lesson.
We followed the suggested agenda closely - they did a great job of thoughtfully laying it out. We also took the author's advice to take the girls out for a celebratory dinner and present them with purity rings.
We also would suggest that they move away from CDs (we had to purchase a external player just to be able to listen to them) and to digitally download-able content.
Overall, the weekend was so special and we are incredibly thankful that the Rainey's took the time to lay this content, messaging, activities, and schedule out!!
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